I remember this one time; my friend and I were talking to some guy who was telling us his version of how to take care of a woman. It started off quite well, he told us how a man should treat a woman with kindness, offer gifts every so often. How it is important to keep a woman happy for in return she will keep him happy, then he adds, but when she does wrong you need to discipline her so that she does not repeat it.
Sometimes the only way to fully grasp the gravity of a situation is to be put smack in the middle of the said situation. For me, this was traveling with a baby. Sure, we've had short trips, 3 hours max, this though counting from the departure point my house in Nairobi to the destination point in Mombasa was an overwhelming 9 hours.
The world is skewed in favor of the man. Men are privileged even from birth with some communities placing a higher value on a male birth over a female one. It's a sad world where a child's life can end before it begins, for the simple mistake of being the wrong 'gender'. Patriarchy favors men at home, at work and even by infrastructure design.
Having done this adult thing for a few years, I think it's a scam. As children, we couldn't grow up fast enough. We had this idea that once we grew up, everything we wanted would be ours for the taking. No more bedtimes, curfews, not being bought what you want, school. Childhood looked so oppressive but in hindsight was it really? Do you ever just look back and think,"wow! I had it good"
I first saw Tiffany Haddish on The Carmichael Show but it wasn't until I saw her on an entrance on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert that she really stood out. She's was so full of energy and confidence and I was in awe. From then on I have been lowkey obsessed and she hasn't disappointed me yet. Everyone loved her on the girls trip, her comedy special was bomb too. I am currently reading, The black unicorn and I can't stop laughing. You almost read it the way she speaks.
I have gone through depression before. Not many people know this and some of the people close to me will know this for the first time as they read this. It was a strange time. I am not ready to share the details that led to this state. I wasn't even consciously aware that I was in this state till a friend offered help.